About a Girl
When I was pregnant with Buzz, I heard a constant question from countless people. “Are you hoping for a girl?” I honestly wasn’t. Either way would have been fine, but I thought there would be something truly special about my son having a brother. That’s what I envisioned. Two boys, friends, brothers.
And when that became our reality, I was overjoyed. I couldn’t have imagined anything different. They were perfect, my boys. My sons. I was soon to be in a house full of action figures and Light Sabers and burping contests. There were times when I felt outnumbered, but it was exactly as it should have been.
Still, people would ask, “Are you going to try for a girl?”. As if we had somehow failed. Third time’s a charm. The answer to that was no, I don’t think so. We thought our family was complete, already a handful. Bony knees and dirty fingernails and all things blue. Perfect. To imply that something was missing would have been wrong. At least I thought it was.
Then, along came a surprise. And we weren’t sure how we felt about it at first. I was in denial for longer than I should have been, actually. But we gathered our wits and our courage and we prepared once again. Whatever it may be. Three boys, three brothers, would have been just as well. Easier even, maybe.
When I met her for the first time, though, they said “It’s a girl! You have a daughter.”, and I cried. This girl that took me by surprise. Who I didn’t know I was missing until she was here. We are still outnumbered, but at least I have someone on my side. And she will always have me on hers. My beautiful girl. It’s so much better than I could have ever imagined.
I'm Crystal. A 30-something mom to 3 young kids living in the Midwest USA. When I'm not chasing my children, I'm a freelance writer and web designer. I like to tell stories from our days and share what we enjoy...
10 Responses
on April 23 2010
I had the same experience with my second. Although I thought for sure that my first would be a girl, during my second, I felt like another boy would be easier and better for my son. When we found out it was a girl, I was SO excited but nervous that my children wouldn’t be as close as siblings of the same sex. (I’m very close to my sister and don’t have brothers) But my friends reassured me. And I wouldn’t have it any other way!
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on April 23 2010
Can’t even imagine…so sweet!
on April 23 2010
I tried not to care whether my 2nd was a girl or boy but when that little girl body was laid on my chest a second from emerging from my body, I felt like I won the lottery.
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on April 23 2010
::tears!::
I was thrilled to learn that I was going to have a boy when I was pregnant with my son, for a variety of reasons. I do have to admit that I’m hoping #2, when the time comes, might be a girl…but at the same time, another little boy would be more than welcome. I love being the mommy of a little boy right now, and another would just be icing on the cake! (But I do get gooey over little girls’ clothes at the store, and girls with messy fountain pigtails just slay me).
Either way, I think I’d be more than content.
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on April 24 2010
When I was pregnant with my daughter (my second child) the pressure I felt from my family and friends for her to be a girl was overwhelming. I was really and truly fine with whatever sex she was but I couldn’t take the constant voices telling me they hoped it was a girl. Lucky for everyone it was indeed a girl! Yay!
I’m not sure what the obsession is with having matched sets of kids. I bet families with all girls are asked if they are going to try for a boy.
I do admit that it’s fun having one of each. I get to experience everything now – whether I’m ready for it or not.
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on April 25 2010
Yay! for a little sugar and spice to go along with the snips and snails … and a few pairs of ruffly socks for good measure. =>
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on April 25 2010
So sweet.
I felt the same way about my daughter.
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on April 25 2010
Aww…how beautiful. I can’t quite understand, not having boys and all, but my girls are definitely part of the puzzle of my life that was missing before now.
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on April 26 2010
I’m just now understanding that special bond with a daughter. It’s sweet and miraculous in a way I never expected!
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on April 28 2010
I was the same way with Ben … I just didn’t know what I’d do with a boy. We don’t have many in our family. But I love having my boy … he’s such an amazing joy for me. And of course, you’re right about little girls … I love having that special bond with Tabby.